Dating

I have to be honest with you (even though it will just promote the companionship arrangement), dating is cesspool of bad behaviors, cheap trick and losers.

I'm being harsh, it's true, but the whole concept is flawed for getting a good relationship. The basis for it all is that you get yourself a "profile". Whereas its online or just in a bar... getting dressed, acting perfect, and all that shit, it's just a front. You might be perfect as you are for somebody, but you're trying to fish with bottom dragging nets and you will destroy all the nice corals ready to receive you as you are. You will not be yourself because you want to please, and at the same time you will not be pleased by those you might please you because of the pressure to get a good sized fish, with aaaaaall those perfect qualities that make a perfect catch.

If the situation isn't real, and you're not being yourself, if you're really lucky, you'll get a good fuck. Once in a blue moon, you'll get a lasting relationship.

Flirting is fun, but it's a simple game that should not be played with total strangers. You might get lucky, but it's pure luck amid the muck.

You can tell I gave up on that a good 10 years ago. I've met all the ladies (until I started working in the escorting business) through simple things, mostly friends. No freaking match up, thank you very much! Anyways, my friends aren't "matchmakers" (worst concept ever, even worst than dating!) so I'm safe on that front.

My advice, do your stuff... any kind of activities you like (don't take that freaking pottery class if you don't like it!), don't be afraid to mix up and socialize, get involved in clubs and group formed around those activities, you'll get to do what you like a meet new people. Never look at a guy like you want to "date" him, always look at who he is, show him who you are, if you're a klutz, show it and laugh about it, you'd be surprised how much being yourself will bring you fun and fun people to be with.

Even if your favorite activity is not a very social, there's always a local club or group.

[What a rant!]

Bottom line? Don't look. Be yourself. Engage in your favorite activities.

Yes, it will take a while. In the mean time, there's always us! (I did have a disclaimer at the start of this surprisingly long post!)