Q 41

If a guy doesn’t have an orgasm, does it mean I’m not good in bed?

A

No. Contrary to what most people think, there's a number of things outside the control of the partner that can make an orgasm impossible, and I'm not just talking about men, it' just more obvious in their case.

The easiest example to give is the performance issue. Most of the time, if a guy worries about performance, he'll probably have performance issues... no orgasm there. It's also the case for women, except that since most people think that it's normal for a woman not to have an orgasm, women tend to put less pressure on themselves and to get less pressure from their partner. It's silly, but there it is.